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Self-Advocacy Women's Issues Domestic Violence

When You’ve Learned to Second-Guess Yourself, Self-Advocacy Isn’t as Simple as “Speaking Up”

“Advocate for yourself” is common advice. Ask questions. Set boundaries. Tell people what you need. Speak up when something is wrong. On the surface, this seems straightforward. In practice, self-advocacy can be much more complicated, particularly for women who have spent significant periods of their lives learning that speaking up comes with consequences. What happens when asking q

Caroline Fithen, MA·Aug 8, 2026·6 min

relationships Women's Issues Divorce

You Don’t Have to Call It Abuse to Know Something Isn’t Right

There was a long time when I knew something wasn’t right in my relationship without fully understanding what I was experiencing. I knew I didn’t want to be screamed at. I knew being called names wasn’t okay. I knew I shouldn’t be mocked or ridiculed because I didn’t know something, didn’t hear something correctly, or held a different opinion. In the beginning,

Caroline Fithen, MA·Aug 8, 2026·8 min

people pleasing fawn response self-abandonment

I'll Always Trade My Rook to Keep My Knight. On why we need to stop pathologizing the people-pleasers of this world.

I want to talk about people-pleasing, but not in the way it usually gets talked about. I'm tired of the version that frames it as a personality quirk, a boundary problem, or a self-esteem issue we just need to do the work on. That framing skips over the most important thing, which is that people-pleasing is a survival strategy that worked. It equated to safety, and sometimes to love, which kind of

Wholehearted Counseling LLC·Apr 25, 2026·4 min

Tagged: boundaries

When You’ve Learned to Second-Guess Yourself, Self-Advocacy Isn’t as Simple as “Speaking Up”

You Don’t Have to Call It Abuse to Know Something Isn’t Right

I'll Always Trade My Rook to Keep My Knight. On why we need to stop pathologizing the people-pleasers of this world.

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